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The Ferryman's avatar

Thank you, Wout, for your clear and courageous words. What you describe touches on much that I’ve lived through, but for me, this is now a closed chapter. Not with anger, not with disappointment, but with calm and clarity.

I’m writing a book. Not to seek recognition from systems that were never truly open to understanding me, but to bring this entire phase to a close. Writing it is a ritual — a way to give everything that’s been its proper place, with respect, but without any need to keep investing in it.

From here on, I’m focusing only on those who genuinely invite me in. People who want to work, live, and build with openness and reciprocity. That’s where my future is. That’s where my strength lies.

This book doesn’t mark a bitter goodbye — it marks a shift into clarity. I no longer need to be everywhere. Just where I’m truly received.

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Wout van Helvoirt's avatar

That’s a great mindset, Ron, excited to see what you bring to your second book!

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Susan OBrien's avatar

I do hope you have a circle of friends and acquaintances able to celebrate you real time and space. You are a treasure to be cherished on very personal levels.

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Wout van Helvoirt's avatar

Thank you Susan, I appreciate that. The truth is, I don’t have many friends in the usual sense. Not out of resistance, but because finding those who see and feel the world in similar ways is rare. I treasure solitude, and I hold close the few connections that feel real, rather than scatter myself trying to belong everywhere.

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