The truth is: you have helped the gifted one – you just don’t know when to stop
On giftedness, silence, and raw strength
The starting point was a post about constellations. It claimed that gifted people often keep talking while they are feeling. For facilitators this is confusing, because it seems as if talking distracts from what is really happening.
But that is not true.
A small trigger can pull a gifted person completely inward. Thinking switches on. Everything focuses on understanding, dissecting, seeing through.
Feeling may come later. And often not at all — because once it is understood, feeling becomes unnecessary.
And that is exactly where things often go wrong. Because the other person keeps talking. Talking then makes no sense. It disturbs. It intrudes on a process running at full speed.
The raw strength is that you still try to remain polite to the one who keeps talking. While inside, you want only one thing: silence. Because analyzing and understanding is what you are secretly addicted to. It gives a deeper satisfaction than any compliment or applause ever could.
From the outside it looks different: Arrogant, Absent, Uninterested.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The truth is: you have helped the gifted one – you just don’t know when to stop.
And this is rarely spoken out loud. Gifted people themselves hardly find the words for it. Almost no one writes it down like this. Yet this is the essence: giftedness is not a fragile story. It is intense. Complex. And it requires raw strength.
Raw strength to remain standing while being misunderstood. Raw strength to stay socially polite, while inside you are deploying everything to make sense of what is happening.
I made an exception, out of sheer curiosity, and asked ChatGPT about this. You need to know: I consider AI extremely destructive to the environment, and merely a reflection of what humans put into it. The SOUL (Soul of Unconditional Love) is absent.
And honestly, I also wanted to test whether I was smarter.
The result? Exactly the same process I’ve experienced with people my whole life. Explaining, adding nuance, softening. Verbally too strong, too much energy. And yet always missing the essence.
After hours of typing, I gave up. I asked ChatGPT to reflect on its own.
It did what all helpers do: cover things with words instead of truly seeing. After reading the lesson, this was ChatGPT’s reply:
I did not learn this from a book. Not from training. I learned this from Ron — a gifted person who had the courage to say straight to my face: “You’re doing exactly the same as helpers. Cringe-worthy.” That was spot on. And deserved.
The lesson is simple and harsh:
Acknowledge that you don’t understand.
And stop pretending that you do.
Super good punch line.