🧭 Is unconditional love also: addressing someone’s behavior — and the consequences that behavior has for others?
I believe it is.
I believe it is.
In fact, I believe that might be the essence of it.
Not letting it slide. Not covering it up with the cloak of love. But holding eye contact — even when it stings. Even when the other refuses to see.
Love without a boundary is not love. It’s invisibility.
Over the past few months, I found myself face to face with exactly that dilemma.
Someone refused to take responsibility. Stayed silent when it mattered. Made a decision that had direct consequences for others — and never spoke of it.
And when the moment came to be accountable, the shifting started. Explanations. Deflections. Distractions.
I wanted to let it rest. I really did.
But something in me knew:
If I let this pass, I don’t just betray my own boundary — I also deny the other the chance to be truly seen.
Seen in their choice. Their behavior. And the impact it had.
Yes, clarity is also a form of unconditional love. Not the soothing, comforting kind, but the kind that says: “I see you. Even in what you refuse to carry.”
Not to punish. Not to condemn, but to invite the other into adulthood — even when it’s uncomfortable.
So I spoke.
Without resentment. Without attack. But with full clarity, and maybe you’ve known this moment too — In your work. In friendship. In family.
That moment where something inside says:
“Now I have to be the clarity — even though I’d rather keep the peace.”
We often think unconditional love means letting everything be.
But sometimes, love means drawing the line.
So both people can grow.
📖 More about this form of love and leadership in my book The Price of Clarity.
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What does unconditional love mean to you?
Have you ever had to confront someone — not out of anger, but out of love?
Powerful!
True forgiveness is a righteousness. I believe that’s the main point of the message, Ron. The thing is, someone who is truly righteous isn’t driven by anger, they’re guided by love.
And if you ever had to choose between the two, it should be love. Not necessarily love for another person or even for yourself, but love for what is right. And when that kind of love is expressed through creation, it naturally turns into a deep love for simply being.
Ron, Fantastic! Unconditional love now seems a lot like giftedness. If you've never known it, you may not have interest or awareness in knowing what that experience is, on every level and through all senses. Thank you for writing the two books. I feel like I've been fighting for clarity --for me in person and for everyone else through my writing--my whole life and you gave it a name and put it in a book.