Giftedness and Wisdom: A Tricky Cocktail

People either like you—or they don’t.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a knack for seeing what others miss. I can untangle complex problems, spot hidden patterns, and put things back together in a way that works—and keeps working. Often, people get stuck trying to pull apart the knots they’ve created, but the harder they pull, the tighter those knots become.

That’s where I come in. I take all the puzzle pieces apart, repair them individually, and carefully put them back together. I don’t just fix the symptoms; I make sure the same problems don’t keep happening.

But here’s the tricky part: when you see the bigger picture, when you challenge assumptions and bring clarity where others see chaos, it doesn’t always make you popular.

The Price of Seeing Clearly

For years, I thought my ability to identify problems quickly and say what needs to be said was just “normal.” To me, it was simply doing the work that needed to be done. I didn’t see it as a gift; I saw it as my job. But I’ve learned that giftedness comes with a price.

Not everyone welcomes clarity—especially when it disrupts their comfort or challenges their way of working. Sometimes, when I point out the real issue or expose what others have overlooked, it feels to them like I’m shining a light where they’d rather keep things dark. My ability to cut through complexity can make people uncomfortable. It’s not always what they want to hear, even if it’s exactly what they need.

And here’s what I’ve had to accept:

“People will either like you—or they won’t. And that’s okay.”

I used to take it personally. I’d wonder, “What did I do wrong?” But I’ve come to realize that their reactions are rarely about me. More often, it’s about what I reflect back to them—their blind spots, fears, or insecurities. I’ve learned to stand firm, knowing that the value I bring is far greater than their discomfort.

The Joy of Transformation

This is where I thrive—in the middle of the mess. I love helping people see the puzzle clearly—piece by piece—and guiding them toward solutions that stick. Watching a team or organisation finally unlock its potential, seeing the energy and clarity return to their work, brings me a deep sense of satisfaction.

But it’s more than that. It’s a joy that goes both ways. Their transformation feels like my transformation, too.

Being gifted is a tricky cocktail. It takes wisdom to know when to push and when to hold back. It requires courage to see what others can’t and say what others won’t. It’s not always easy. There’s resistance, frustration, and even rejection along the way.

But when the knots are untangled, when the puzzle is whole again—that’s where the magic happens. That’s why I do what I do.

Because in the end, seeing people—and organisations—become who they’re truly capable of being?

That’s what brings me joy.

Short Note

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